In the past two months there has been this strange wind of unsolicited advice blowing my way…in regards to well me and meeting, marrying, starting a family sort of thing.  Did I ask for this advice by no means..Did I hold up a sign that said.. “I AM READDY FOR MARRIAGE”?…nope… Did I even say I was ready to think about this sort of thing at this time?.. nope. I mean it’s true I was was engaged..and then well disengaged..this is no BIG secret. It’s one of those things you don’t go through, but what I like to refer to as “Grow through”. And while I’ve grown through it and still have moments of growing…I am cautious, careful, poised…thoughtful of IT all, even more so now than I was before the aforementioned disengagement which if my mother read this ..well..she may sink down in to a slow deep depression as she would think it’s a sign of me never wanting to get married and have kids. Which is not the case..it’s just not well..anyway….

So to this advice I received.. take it or leave it {question mark}?

♥ ChristianSingles.com

While sitting in the ICU commons waiting room..The chaplain who had come to visit and chat with my dad came by the waiting room to say hello to me and my little sister (also single)… {apparently my father was telling him we were not married..maybe he has an angle too..eesh!!} anyway.. he begins to ask me and my little sister why aren’t we married…

Chaplain: Are you picky?

Us collectively: of course, less picky more..umm Monica: selective Me:hmm you met our dad! the paradigm has  been set! Monica: yeah a guy would have to be even 1/2 a good man as that man.. he’s a good man.

Chaplain: How old are you?

Me:31

My sister: {tells her age}

Chaplain: ohhh you know that have that ummm Christiansingles.com…

Me: {silently.. ohh gee} well yeahh they do

Chaplain: you can get on their..maybe meet nice Christian Guy

Me: hmm yess..I don’t think that’s reallly something weeee want to do {said complete with hand gestures and squinty eye}

Chaplain: Well I will be praying..

Me: thanks soo much!

♥ Never give up on love…”My second chance came in my 60’s.”

Okay soooo.. While again in the ICU waiting room I met this stylish darling sophisticated lady who looked  not a day over 50. She began asking me about me my family. She thought I was in college and well super young.. and I told her my 20’s are over. lol. I tell her she looks so amazingly young and she said she is in her prime and that life is blossoming for her even now in her 60’s. She pulls her hand up to show this beautiful princess cut diamon ring with little dainty detailing around the band… and she says “I am even getting married!”   She tells me she has been single fpr 28 years after being married..and well it was not a very good situation at all. she said she didn’t know if she ever wanted to be married again, but she wanted to love herself and love God and if it happened great. 28 years later she is going to be a bride. She has “grown through” and this man she is going to marry has loved her better than any person she has ever known. I smiled at Betty as she spoke like a woman who has lived a lifetime, but didn’t let life make her bitter, but better. She told me..well take your time..but just don’t take too much time because you are afraid..

I think The Sophisticated lady said it all.

♥Match maker, match maker, bring them to church? {said with high pitch squeal at the end}

So this was my mom’s genius idea.. She really wants us girls to meet a guy..correction THE RIGHT GUY, get married and have kids. I believe her preference is girls.. I am sure this has to do with girls being prissy, dainty, some doting all that. Anyway, while in a family convo in our living room I am not sure how we got on this topic.{It’s never one we would bring up on our own} My dad starts saying how he feels sorry for us.. lol Because alot of these young gents have not been taught how to do anything, and they don’t try to learn for themselves. “They don’t even own tools! How does a man not have a wrench”{Lesson #457 from my father: A man must own tools- preferably in a tool box…at minimum the basics} He goes on about how he is praying down heaven and earth because he knows none of us want some dude that’s not got it together Spiritually, Emotionally, Financially {talking savvy not wealth necessarily} Mentally and is not suffering from an idenity crisis. One of my sisters offer up.. “I mean I haven’t even met anyone that’s appealing!” what do you want us to do?!? My mom’s response…I mean we need at least some prospects.. I think we should just invite some eligibles to the church and just have some interviews..”What do you girls think she says?” Girls answer…”We think not” EESH!

♥Location, Location, Location

More advice I  recently received  was from a guy pal.. who I don’t often  get to “gleam” from do to distance, but when I do…well I would say he gives sound advice…he shall remain nameless for this post however. {Protecting the wise and prudent?} Well we are having this conversation about how he tool feels that for us LaBord girls.. there may be a dry well in the city which we live…actually he said dry for most women. I explained to him.. I can see what he is saying….but again..we haven’t found ourselves in a major hurry. He feels however, that he would soon like to take on the title of “Uncle” so in so.. as well we have no Biological brothers.. We sit quietly for all of 9 seconds..and he says.. “I got it!!!” and I say ..”ohh..shoot!..what it is?” He says.. “You should just move.” I say to where.. and he says..”doesn’t matter does it?, just away from where you are.  I thank him for advice..and just encourage him to pray instead of give advice. {smile}.

♥Don’t marry a super older man

This advice was stirred by a conversation with someone well..super close to me.. {like Family ;)} They will also remain nameless for this post. They also felt the need to ask what kind of guys are we girls typically interested in so that they may “keep an eye out” {as if its like shopping for a handbag}. I digress, Monica speaks up and says well Angie(Gigi) likes older guys.. My {family like} person say to me..”What?!?!” I said “Is this surprising where you during the holidays, my ex fiancee was almost 10 years older than me.” She gasped..and grabbed my arm and looked me sqaure in my eyes and said..{in a save me from myself voice}
DON’T do it! You will regret it.” I laugh.. And she says “I am telling you Angela (Gigi) you will regret it.. They don’t like to do anything when they get older…no adventures, no fun.  I tell her I am becomig more open you younger than 10 years..I mean it’s not like its an Iron clad rule I have or anything.. {right?}.  She says.. “Good..because you will be sorry…”  Hmmm.. much to ponder here.

So you see can this advise work for this LaBord girl..or any girl for that matter. I am not sure.. but never- the- less it was amusing to hear what people came up with. :)

  #DearDaughter ~ The Wiser You Become…The Fewer Your Choices. Men. -~Dr. Mike Murdock

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Gigi